Today I am going to talk about something me and my husband mentioned over the phone and I thought it might be something important to share. Today’s topic is “skinny shaming”. We all know that “fat-shaming” is wrong and offensive. No one should be judged or made fun of for their weight or body type. But why is skinny-shaming OK, if fat-shaming is not?
In today’s society there are many companies, songs, etc, showing that you should love your body and they are right! But, there are many songs and campaigns that seem to be doing that while talking bad about us such as Meghan Trainor – All About That Bass: “I’m bringing booty back / Go ahead and tell them skinny b****es that / No I’m just playing. I know you think you’re fat.” and many more. You will often also see on Facebook a picture comparison of a skinny and thick women next to each other saying “this is what a woman really looks like ” or ” this is what beauty really is” next to the thick girls picture. I think they are both beautiful and there is nothing to be ashamed of in either way.
I am 5’8 and weight 132 ponds. I was an extremely skinny girl growing up. I was never fat, but I certainly struggled with body issues and confidence. I was teased lots for it. I was called Olive Oil (from Popeye), Flat, twig, bony, ugly, anorexic, etc. People always asking or saying “Do you eat?”, “Why don’t you gain some weight?”, “You would be gorgeous if you gained 20 pounds!” “Real woman have curves”. I have even had people tell my husband “You’re handsome, why don’t you leave your skinny wife and get a hotter woman?” Excuse me?
Creating this blog was a way of breaking my own barriers and getting passed my comfort zone. Taking risks and having fun with my style has thought me that being skinny is OK. Regardless of your body type you can dress to impress! You will find many bloggers that do just that and show off their gorgeous figures.
I remember in middle school wearing 3 pairs of jeans on top of the other so I wouldn’t look so skinny and be made fun off. I would also never wear skinny jeans because I thought I would look thinner and uglier. Words hurt and I am glad I have grown up to learn that it’s OK. I want to tell you all, you are beautiful, unique, and there is no one like you out there! Rock your body and confidence and lets show everyone that weight is not what defines us!
Being skinny or thick is not and should not be what determines if someone is beautiful. A woman is as beautiful outside as she feels inside and people bringing us down with unkind words, does not help anyone with their confidence and self esteem. Skinny shaming is body shaming. It’s harmful and painful. It all needs to stop.
P.S. Let me know in the comments if you have ever suffered with any body shaming, things you have heard and how you overcame. Lets support one another!
Jeans: New York and Co. Jacket: Guess Shoes: Guess
Shirt: EXPRESS Necklace: EXPRESS Bracelet: Burlington